My week isn’t going as planned and I have not progressed with my goal of following my schedule. I took a sick day off work on Monday (I was perfectly fine to go to work) and I ended up with a migraine on Tuesday. Monday and Tuesdays are my planned gym days, so of course I skipped those. This means I’ve been to the gym exactly no times this week, when I wanted to go 3 times.
I’ve gone astray with my exercise routine and I keep making up excuses for why I can’t go to the gym when I’ve even penciled it in to my schedule. Sometimes I feel like there are two versions of myself competing for air time. One version is a self conscious, impulsive teenager who likes comfort, short term pleasure and constantly measures herself to others. She’s fun, highly emotional and a little reckless. The other version of me is an adult with goals, ambitions, discipline and the ability to detach from thoughts of not being good enough. My inner teenager, if you will, catches me off guard and I’ll end up self sabotaging my efforts for short term good feelings. The gym, after all, is not her ideal environment.
Perhaps this self sabotaging behavior comes from dismissing the inner teenager side to me in favor of the adult. What my inner teenager wants is fun, friends and a sense of belonging. What my adult self wants is a solid exercise regime. Unfortunately these events seem mutually exclusive at the present time in my life, I don’t have any friends at the gym and I find it quite lonely. Sure, if I go to the gym often enough I might make friends, but the future is not something my inner teenager thinks about.
I’ve got to work out how to appease both my inner teenager and my adult self in order to get what I want out of life. It’s clear that I won’t get friends and a sense of belonging from the gym just yet, and will need to look into other ways to bring more of this into my life. I do tend to say no to social events so that I can have more time to study or go to the gym or tidy up. This could be why I’m rebelling on myself, I have too many adult priorities and am shoving my teen side into the corner. Could spending more time with friends help me to achieve my goals?
I’m tempted to experiment with this idea next week and catch up with a friend mid-week, or even go out on a date night with Callum for my sense of fun. Will this help me stay on track with my schedule if I ensure I have enough activities that balance out my responsibilties too? I can only try and see what happens.
I’ve come up with a little table to see what I can balance my responsibilities with and will aim to incorporate both into my schedule.
Maybe if my schedule is less hostile towards my inner teenager, I’ll actually stick to it. I can only see if this helps me a little on my way to being the type of person who can follow a schedule.